I hope you had a smashing weekend, I certainly did, my new motto live life to the full, enjoy every minute. This doesn't necessarily mean doing crazy things but just picking myself up and going for it in general. So what about it?, There are a few surprises below. While doing my research I certainly had a few raised eyebrows.
I have picked confidence this week because it's soooo important.Everyone needs a good boost of confidence often. After all, feeling good about yourself makes everything in your life better. Confidence can take you a long way and open up a lot of doors. If you suffer from chronic low self-esteem, you will benefit from these tips on how to boost your confidence.
Positive thinking is the first step in boosting your confidence. Your mind is a very powerful thing. If you tell it something enough times, it will believe it, so if you constantly engage in negative self-talk, you can bet your mind will believe it. When you catch yourself putting yourself down, stop!!!. Switch that negative to a positive and before you know it, your mind will believe that instead.
Act as if you are confident, even when you don’t feel it. This is another way to fool your mind into believing you have confidence. Whenever you feel uncertain or shy or nervous, think of someone who always shines with confidence and act like them. You aren’t being fake or pretending; you’re simply in training.
Groom yourself. This seems like such an obvious one, but it’s amazing how much of a difference a shower and a shave can make in your feelings of self-confidence and for your self-image. Ladies, get your hair done, dress up, even if you think there's nothing exciting happening, remember the scouts motto-Be prepared!, Besides you just know it's the one day you pick that awful top and those stained Jeans for a quick trip to the corner shop that you'll run into someone you know or wish to know. Don't let it happen, sure it's easier to let yourself go. I should know I have got two kids and believe me there are days when I have a full blown conversation with myself on whether to shave my bits or not.
Dress nicely. A corollary of the first item above … if you dress nicely, you’ll feel good about yourself. You’ll feel successful and presentable and ready to tackle the world. Now, dressing nicely means something different for everyone … it doesn’t necessarily mean wearing a $500 outfit, but could mean casual clothes that are nice looking and presentable
Be kind and generous. Oh, so corny. If this is too corny for you, move on. But for the rest of you, know that being kind to others, and generous with yourself and your time and what you have, is a tremendous way to improve your self-image. You act in accordance with the Golden Rule, and you start to feel good about yourself, and to think that you are a good person. It does wonders for your self-confidence, believe me. Try to put someone else first everyday, deny yourself something you want. Go on try it and let me know what you think?
Speak slowly. Such a simple thing, but it can have a big difference in how others perceive you. A person in authority, with authority, speaks slowly. It shows confidence. A person who feels that he isn’t worth listening to will speak quickly, because he doesn’t want to keep others waiting on something not worthy of listening to. Even if you don’t feel the confidence of someone who speaks slowly, try doing it a few times. It will make you feel more confident. Of course, don’t take it to an extreme, but just don’t sound rushed either.
Stand tall. When I remind myself to stand tall and straight, I feel better about myself. I imagine that a rope is pulling the top of my head toward the sky, and the rest of my body straightens accordingly. As an aside, people who stand tall and confident are more attractive. That’s a good thing any day, in my book.
Increase competence. How do you feel more competent? By becoming more competent. And how do you do that? By studying and practicing. Just do small bits at a time. If you want to be a more competent writer, for example, don’t try to tackle the entire profession of writing all at once. Just begin to write more. Journal, blog, write short stories, do some freelance writing. The more you write, the better you’ll be. Set aside 30 minutes a day to write (for example), and the practice will increase your competence
Change a small habit. Not necessarily a big one. Just a small one, like writing things down. Or waking up 10 minutes earlier. Or drinking a glass of water when you wake up. Something small that you know you can do. Do it for a month.
Focus on solutions. If you are a complainer, or focus on problems, change your focus now. Focusing on solutions instead of problems is one of the best things you can do for your confidence and your career. “I’m fat and lazy!” So how can you solve that? “But I can’t motivate myself!” So how can you solve that? “But I have no energy!” So what’s the solution?
Smile. Another trite one. But it works. I feel instantly better when I smile, and it helps me to be kinder to others as well. A little tiny thing that can have a chain reaction. Not a bad investment of your time and energy.
Be grateful. I’m a firm believer in gratitude. But I put it here because while being grateful for what you have in life, for what others have given you, is a very humbling activity … it can also be a very positive and rewarding activity that will improve your self-image. Read more.
Exercise. Gosh, this is a very important one. Exercise has been one of my most empowering activities in the last couple years, and it has made me feel so much better about myself. Sure my serve is still not great but this is really about the taking part
All you have to do is take a walk a few times a week, and you’ll see benefits. Start the habit.
Empower yourself with knowledge. Empowering yourself, in general, is one of the best strategies for building self-confidence. You can do that in many ways, but one of the surest ways to empower yourself is through knowledge. This is along the same vein as building competence and getting prepared … by becoming more knowledgeable, you’ll be more confident … and you become more knowledgeable by doing research and studying. The Internet is a great tool, of course, but so are the people around you, people who have done what you want, books, magazines, and educational institutions.
Do something you’ve been procrastinating on. What’s on your to-do list that’s been sitting there? Do it first thing in the morning, and get it out of the way. You’ll
Work on small things. Trying to take on a huge project or task can be overwhelming and daunting and intimidating for anyone, even the best of us. Instead, learn to break off small chunks and work in bursts. Small little achievements make you feel good, and they add up to big achievements. Learn to work like this all the time, and soon you’ll be a self-confident maniac.
Organise your life. This might seem like a small, simple thing (then again, for some of you it might not be so small). But it has always worked wonders for me. If my desk starts to get messy, and the world around me is in chaos, clearing off my desk is my way of getting a little piece of my life under control. It is the calm in the center of the storm.
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